Self-Confidence Tips You Can Apply Today – Plus Coaching Advice That Lasts

Self-confidence is not something you are born with. It is something we learn as we grow up. That is the feeling – I can do it!

Just like learning to ride a bike, cook, or speak another language — we learn to build self-confidence. But it requires action and persistence. Self-confidence is shaped not only by positive experiences, but also by challenges. It is influenced by the way you think — and the way you think shapes how you feel, and how you feel influences your decisions and behavior.

Think about how much persistence, belief, and trial and error it took to learn how to walk. Back then, you weren’t even aware of what self-confidence was — you simply wanted to move forward. You fell, but you got back up. Again and again. Was that confidence?

Not really — it was instinct, determination, and the absence of fear or judgment.

Confidence came after the success — after standing, after those first few steps.

If you had given up then, you'd still be crawling today.

Now, as adults who are more aware of our lives and choices, we often choose to ignore those inner drives. We adapt, we hesitate, we avoid taking action, even when we want to stand on our own two feet.

We all want success — but behind that desire is the deeper need for happiness.

Do you sometimes — or often — catch yourself copying other people’s actions, adopting their thoughts, feeling nervous or worthless in certain situations? Do you hold back your opinion, say “yes” when you really mean “no”? Do you think there’s something wrong with the way you look, want something deeply but don’t dare to go for it, or keep postponing it?Do you find yourself stuck in negative thoughts more often than you'd like?

If so, reading this blog is already a positive step forward.

What Successful People Do Differently

Now, just imagine waking up one day as someone who trusts yourself more than anyone else .Imagine truly believing that your feelings and desires matter — that changing the way you think could bring you the confidence that leads to real happiness and fulfillment. Because you deserve that — just like everyone else.

And if you think you’re the only one feeling this way — keep reading.

The truth is: everyone struggles with it from time to time — even celebrities, artists, and CEOs.

• Shakira admitted that after a breakup, she questioned her self-worth.

• Adele struggled with anxiety for years.

• Serena Williams once said: “I felt insecure — even when I was number one in the world.”

  
  

The good news? Self-confidence can be built, learned, and strengthened like any other skill.

With the right guidance, you can change how you feel, how you behave — and how you live.

"I know, I know – you’ll say, 'easier said than done.' And you’re right. When you’re feeling low and drained, it’s hard to feel confident and strong. That’s the trap – even when opportunity shows up right in front of you, you let it pass because of how you feel in that moment. And in today’s world, giving up is easier than ever.

Especially in today’s world of social media – it’s become almost like a new 'religion.' It shapes how we think, often without us even realizing it. We scroll through images, videos, and the highlights of other people’s happiness… and forget how easy it is to present a perfect life in just a few seconds. That’s when confidence starts to slip, self-criticism grows, overthinking takes over – and slowly but surely, we may find ourselves sliding toward burnout or even depression.

That’s why it’s so important to say yes when you’re offered a choice – a chance.

Here, I’m offering you guidance and tools to help you recognize where you are right now. But it’s up to you (because no one else will do it for you) to take your confidence and happiness into your own hands.

10 Practical Self-Confidence Tips – How to be happier - You Can Apply Today

1. Catch your inner saboteur in action Instead of: “I’m not good enough,” say:“I’m still learning, but I’m making progress every day.”

2. Remember a time you felt powerful Write down moments when you were brave, proud, successful.That proof is real. Use it.

3. Set micro goals Start small. Little wins build your belief in yourself.

4. Adjust your posture Your body talks to your brain. Standing tall, smiling, holding eye contact – it sends a message: I’ve got this. Try the “Wonder Woman pose” for 2 minutes. Research says it works.

5. Create your “evidence list”List the compliments you’ve received, the things you’ve overcome, the times you were proud. Revisit it when self-doubt creeps in.

6. Stop comparing – focus on your own growth. You’re not behind. You’re on your own timeline.

7. Learn to say “NO” Boundaries are not rude. They’re self-respect. Try: “Thanks, but I’ll pass.”Or: “Let me think about it.”

8. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Confidence doesn’t grow in toxic soil. Find people who see you – and want to see you grow.

9. Allow yourself to fail – it’s how we grow Perfection is a myth. The most confident people are often the ones who’ve failed the most – and kept going.

10. Do things that scare you – in small steps. Speak your truth. Post that idea. Say how you really feel. Every time you step outside your comfort zone, you build trust in yourself.

Google Maps for Roads. Coaching for Life.

Even successful, happy, and confident people use Google Maps when they need to get somewhere.There’s no shame in not knowing the way. But unlike most, they also have a ‘Google Map’ for life –coaches and mentors who guide them through conversations, especially on days when things feel heavy or unclear.

Because yes – even they have bad days. Days filled with doubt, low energy, or moments where self-confidence disappears.

And instead of sitting in the car, driving in circles for days trying to find their way –they ask for life direction. They choose clarity over confusion. Support over silence. And progress over perfection.

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Your Next Step: Coaching With Clarity

If you’ve read this far, it means only one thing: You’ve already recognized that you have a choice. And now it’s up to you – to pause for a moment and ask for direction.

Don’t miss the opportunity that’s right in front of you. No one gets through life alone – just like a car, we all run out of fuel sometimes.

Say yes. Because very soon, you’ll be wearing what’s truly in –the most powerful accessory there is: Self-confidence.

Book a free conversation, and let’s explore your life map together. There’s no obligation after the session – just clarity, direction, and the freedom to choose your next step.Exactly what you’ve been needing.

I work with people online – whether they’re in Croatia, the Netherlands, or halfway across the planet.In English and Croatian.